Gawat Darurat Pendidikan

Disclaimer: Lo boleh nggak setuju, lo boleh punya pendapat lain, bebas. Yang jelas ini pendapat gue. Kalo nggak suka, nggak usah baca. Kalo nggak setuju, nggak usah ribut. Mending lo tawarin solusi nyata. Kalo nggak bisa, gak usah berisik, mending diem aja. Kalo lo pengen ngelakuin sesuatu tapi nggak tau mulai darimana, ayo ngobrol tatap muka. Intinya jangan cuma mendebat di komen aja. (Yaelah, kayak masih ada aja yang baca!)

Eniwei, jujur entah bagaimana gue kesel, kesel banget, ketika melihat seseorang atau pihak tertentu mengangkat tema “Indonesia Gawat Darurat Pendidikan”, lalu lantas mengaitkannya dengan data sekolah. Entah itu karena tidak bersekolah atau putus sekolah.

Anjrit, gue kesel. Semudah itu semua orang melempar kesalahan dan menunjuk ke satu pihak: sekolah.

Kenapa sih, tiap ngomongin “pendidikan”, kita selalu mengacunya ke “sekolah”?

Wake up, man! Pendidikan itu nggak sesempit sekolah!

Udah 2019 cuy! Mindset lo masih sesempit itu?

Iya, gue paham. Sekolah masih jadi sarana mainstream “pendidikan”. Tapi plis lah, udah sekian tahun, sekian dekade, udah bentar lagi seabad Indonesia merdeka, lo nggak ngerasa kalo sistem persekolahan nggak berhasil mendidik SDM bangsa kita? Okelah ada beberapa SDM yang keren abis, revolusioner, out of the box dan semacamnya.. tapi itu tuh berapa persen dari populasi jebolan persekolahan, men? Sisanya apa kabar?

Yang sekolah sampe SMA terus kerjanya tawuran, nge-bully orang lain, ada. Yang kuliah S1 kerjanya nyinyir bin julid di sosmed, banyak. Yang sampe S2 tapi gak becus ngurus keluarga, ada. Yang sampe sertifikasi ini-itu tralala trilili terus korupsi, banyak.

Jadi persekolahan membuktikan apa???

Enggak, gue enggak bilang bersekolah itu jelek, bukan. Hanya saja.. terlalu banyak kasus yang udah mengindikasikan bahwa sekolah itu bukan solusi efektif isu pendidikan!

Silakan cari sendiri, di tahun 2018 aja udah berapa banyak kasus seputar masalah persekolahan? Gimana di 5 tahun terakhir? 10 tahun terakhir?

Masalahnya gitu-gitu melulu, sob! Lalu tiap ganti presiden, ganti menteri, ada perubahan apa? Yang mutlak terjadi cuma perubahan kurikulum, yang malah bikin “pendidikan” di sekolah makin nggak efektif, makin membingungkan.

Jadi apa nggak wajar kalo gue kesel, ketika kita membahas soal “Gawat Darurat Pendidikan”, dan yang dibahas adalah soal tidak bersekolah dan putus sekolah? Masalahnya jauh lebih gawat daripada itu, bro en sis!

Negeri kita ini krisis moral.. krisis karakter.. krisis empati. Kurang jelas apa semua itu digambarkan oleh mayoritas netizen kita?

Emangnya hal kayak gitu bisa diselesaikan di sekolah? Lo nggak liat kelakuan anak sekolah zaman sekarang kayak apa? Lo nggak liat kelakuan orangtuanya kayak apa?

Lo nggak liat, nggak sedikit siswa dan mahasiswa setres dan bunuh diri karena nggak sanggup ngadepin beban “sekolah”?

Lo nggak liat, banyak orang yang lulus “sekolah” lalu kerjanya buang-buang waktu dan tenaga, nyari duit kerja lembur bagai kuda tanpa terpuaskan batinnya, lalu demi melepas penat rela “bakar” uang, foya-foya, pesta pora, mabok dunia, lalu ketika kehabisan duit lantas menghalalkan segala cara, sampe korupsi harta negara?

Plis lah, sob.. ketika kita ngomongin “gawat darurat pendidikan”, nggak bisa kita serta merta menunjuk “sekolah” sebagai fokus utamanya. Pendidikan sejati selalu terjadi dalam keluarga.

Sebaik, seburuk apapun seorang anak.. ia adalah didikan keluarganya.
Sebaik, seburuk apapun guru dan sekolah.. anak selalu kembali kepada keluarganya. Anak selalu akan meniru orangtuanya.

Karena memang demikianlah fitrahnya.

Maka.. daripada membuat semua mata memandang dan menunjuk pihak sekolah..
Tidakkah lebih elok jika kita tengok keluarga kita?
Tidakkah lebih baik jika kita mengambil tanggungjawab mendidik keluarga kita?
Tidakkah lebih efektif jika kita mulai dari diri sendiri, melengkapi diri dengan kemampuan untuk mendidik dan mengasuh anak-anak kita dengan lebih baik?

Jika mendidik seorang anak berarti memperbaiki kualitas kehidupan banyak manusia di masa depan.. apakah tidak sebaiknya kita mulai dari mendidik diri kita sendiri? Agar kita sanggup mengambil tanggungjawab mendidik anak-anak kita sendiri, bukan melempar tanggungjawabnya ke pihak lain.

Lagipula.. siapakah yang akan diminta pertanggungjawaban akan anak-anak kita di Hari Akhir kelak? Sekolah, atau orangtuanya?

Social Media: The Mother of All (Current) Problems?

No, you’re not reading it wrong. Seems like it is indeed the mother of all problems these days.

As usual, this is not an academic writing, thus I wouldn’t want to bother too much citing different research and references about this social media  phenomena. You can just Google it, I’m pretty sure it’ll provide better results than I could.

It seems quite obvious how I am among those people affected by the nature of social media. You can see that my last post here was almost 2 months ago.. which is just around the time I re-activated my Instagram account.

And since then, I have been writing, still… but mostly on Instagram Stories.

Somehow, speaking in short term, it does feel kinda more rewarding, with instant gratification and all.. You don’t get likes in IGS indeed, but you still get gratification as well, you know.. with the numbers of viewers and all. (Oh and I guess the new feature for sending emoji(s) to the story you view also works as some kind of instant gratification as well, doesn’t it?)

Soooo yeah, sometimes I feel like writing my ideas and thoughts there is somewhat more rewarding, since I also know that more people would read it, I know there are more traffic there.. so if I were to express my ideas and influence people, I might say that it is somewhat more effective through Instagram Stories. I’m pretty sure not as many people read my blog as those who checks out my Instagram Stories.

Anyway, ever since I re-activated my Instagram account, I also frequently check my Instagram. It’s like, automatic. Very impulsive. Although I know that it’s actually not healthy. Hahaha. Dang it, social media is indeed addictive.

Ever since I took a social media break for several months in 2018, I’ve been thinking that social media is indeed toxic by nature. I mean, it is indeed like a weapon. If you don’t know how to wield it, it might hurt you. However, if you understand how to use it, it will help you fight.

So it is actually quite okay if you really understand how to use it. But by the level of toxicity it potentially has these days, it requires higher level of awareness / mindfulness indeed. If you’re not careful enough, it is rather easy to get caught up in the middle of something meaningless. It might even mess with your head, ruin your life.

Ahh, dang it, I just did it again. Randomly checked and swipe through several Insta-Stories while writing this. Whyyyyy. Hahahaha. It’s hard to control the impulse, maaaan.

Anyway, Instagram sure have the potential to kill productivity. It might at first be a friend to you to kill some time, but if you are not doing it mindfully, you might not realize just how much time you actually spent on this platform. Well, it does have a new feature now, which tells you just how long you’ve spent on IG for the day.. (But it doesn’t work on my account somehow! :<) However, information is just an information if you don’t decide to do anything about it.

Sooo yeah, it depends on your intentions. If you really wish to be more productive and spend less time on social media, you really got to clearly set your intentions to do so. Even better, write it down! Put several reminders in strategic places, somewhere quite visible to you. Visual cues should help. I am not yet very consistent in doing these kind of things, but some people agreed that such thing does help.

Well, uh.. at first, I feel like there are so much more I could write about social media and the title I used to represent this post, but.. I guess I can split it into different parts.

I suppose I just needed to write something as an exercise, after weeks of absence from this blog.. Like, a stimulus, perhaps. :)

So let’s call this part one! Lateeeeers~

Damaged Goods

Parenting trauma is super real, y’all.

It’s not always explicit like sexual or physical abuse or such, but the emotional trauma is as damaging.

It may damage you as a person. It affects your personality.

It’s true that education shapes people, but we often mistaken “school” for “education”. Believe it or not, the most of education takes place at home.

There are various research to prove this, but since this is not a scientific paper, I apologize for not citing any of those research. (Might as well do your own research, though. Read some parenting books, I’m sure you’ll find a bunch of references there. Oh and while you’re at it, do some research about fitrah-based education/FBE as well. You won’t regret it.)

Well, this is coming from a person who spend years of her life thinking that she could change things, thought that education is the root answer for everything, then found out that school system is an ultimately ineffective component of education, and also figured out that she is a combination of an ideal product of a failed education system and a terribly damaged product of a dysfunctional parenting.

Okay, that was disturbingly specific.

I know I usually try to keep it positive in this blog, but heck, people need to know this.
I am not a professional or an expert or anything in this, but I am speaking writing from the point of view of a person who has experienced the trauma. I don’t care anymore how people judge me, I’m already damaged as I am. At least I’m letting it out just for the sake of keeping me sane writing the truth.

I am who I am. And like it or not, this is me. I’m not really sure how my parents raised me, honestly I don’t remember too much. Perhaps my brain actively delete memories it doesn’t like. Anyhow, as I grew up, as I learn and know more, I figured out that some things are seriously wrong in my life.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I do love my family. I’m grateful for them. But hey, it doesn’t change the fact that they made some terrible mistakes.

And this is how I turned out to be. All the crap and the good inside, if any.

This is how my personality turned out to be. This is how I was “programmed” to be, by everything that happens in my family.

Trust me, it works just like that.

Parenting is like programming.

Be it the habits in the family, how the parents talk to the children, what the parents do, how the parents think, they’re all what makes a person who he/she is. That’s how we all actually learn.

Oh on an important note; parents or family here isn’t necessarily biological, it also works as caretakers or whoever acts as one.

Anyway, so that is why I’m writing this. Everybody needs to know.

Education is important. And the most of education comes from parents.

Education starts from family.

Thus, it is urgent and important to learn how to be good parents.
It is not to be taken lightly.

True, there may not be such thing as the best parenting method. However, that is exactly why we all need to learn, so that we may know and understand well enough to choose which one suits us best.

Because in the end, we’re all left to make our own choices… and face the consequences.**

Well, this could be a longer post, but I guess I have pretty much made my point.

You know how there are some people that goes viral for doing some freakishly ridiculous things and you can’t help to wonder how people can do something so freaking bizarre?

And all the stupid things “netizen” say?

Have you ever wondered how these people were raised in their family?

Don’t blame the government. Don’t blame schools.
Ask ourselves, what are we doing as parents, as adults.
Did we prepare ourselves to properly raise another human being?

We need to break this chain, people. Let’s get to work.

#LearnParenting
#OrangtuaBelajar

**This is also one of the most important skills we need to teach children!

Compliance

There are always options on how to make people comply or follow something.

You can make them comply by fear; make them feel small, feel guilty, feel like there’s no other way but to follow..
Or you can make them comply by love, by passion; make them feel special, feel like they’re good enough, that there’s still hope for them, and more beautiful things would come if they would follow.

Which do you think would be more inviting?

..but To Love Is Not As Simple

Indeed, isn’t it?

Apparently, loving a child is somewhat complicated.

Many times it seems as if they don’t pay attention to what we say or do. As if they’re not listening to us. However, every single thing we do may apparently affect them for the rest of their lives.

I am not a parent (yet), but being a teacher somehow gives me insights of experiences of being a parent. I now understand how it might feel for parents, how they might worry whether what they’re doing or the choices they make are the right ones for the child. Because what they do right now might determine the rest of the child’s life.

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