For the longest time, I’ve always wondered where I belong. I guess I’ve always been aware that I’m just different from most people. I think differently, I see things differently, I work differently. It took me a long time to understand and accept that.
I used to think that I’m such a weirdo for being so different. I felt so out of place, out of frequency. Since I could get along with people and got into any circle just fine, I thought that I was quite adaptable, that I could fit in anywhere just fine.
But the truth is… being able to “fit in” anywhere, I felt like I belong nowhere.
Perhaps I was just changing myself just to fit in? I don’t think I was aware of that back then, but now… I guess I can see that I’ve been trying too hard.
I used to think I found somewhere I belong… somewhere I felt safe enough to be truly myself. Someone, somewhere to call home. But I ended up losing them and ruined everything, thanks to the place I had called “home”. It had shaped me into someone who did such dumb awful things. I can’t say it’s not completely my fault, as I’m the only one who’s responsible for my actions… but dammit, sometimes it’s hard to know what to think. Can’t blame others, yet it’s also wrong to keep on blaming and hating myself. I still find it hard to forgive myself over that.
But hey, it happened. It was what it was.
Wait, this train of thought has taken a detour. Where were we?
Ah, about being different.
Well, the more I learn and dive into the knowledge of the self, human behavior, the knowledge about being, about the soul, spirituality, and so on… the more I learn to come to terms with that.
That I am okay with being different. That I was designed to be this way, and it must serve some kind of purpose.
To that point, I guess I’ve completely accepted that.
But what sort of purpose? That’s the thing that I still just haven’t figured out.
I mean, okay, so I was designed to think, work, and see things differently from most people. And that kind of thinking, that perspective, is supposed to be able to help people, to use that different perspective and ways of doing things to guide people to do things differently.
Like, how?
If I think and see things differently from people, how am I supposed to live among them? How am I supposed to get them to understand what I see? How am I supposed to get them to accept these differences?
Didn’t they used to burn so-called “witches” for sh*t like this?
I don’t mean to complain, but I guess it’s just been bothering my mind.
I mean, I guess I’ve been feeling kind of okay with living a slow, quiet life, limiting my exposure on social media, working on things in my own pace, taking (a little bit) better care of myself, and so on. I learn to cut down on my wants and learn to listen more to what I need. I mean, so far it’s quite peaceful, I suppose. Taking it one day at a time.
But sometimes I also can’t help but wonder, is this the life I’m supposed to live? Or am I wasting my potential?
Am I supposed to do things that comes easy for me, which is said to be my true potential in my design, or am I supposed to strive to achieve something?
(But of course this kind of thinking mostly happens after I look at other people’s updates on social media. So… y’know. Could be just another wave of FOMO anxiety.)
I don’t know. Some say it’s human nature to have desire for growth.
But I don’t know. Where is the line between being content and accepting things for the way they are, and the desire for growth? How to tell?
How can we tell when to choose to let go and let God, and when to choose to fight for something?
How to choose to fight for something, when everything that matters enough to fight for is always temporary in this finite world?
How, indeed…
19.03.24
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